In her discussion of her siblings, Lockwood's temerity mirrors that of David Sedaris whenever he writes about his siblings. She is honest in both her love for them and her struggles to understand how they all manage to coexist in the same family unit. In Lockwood's husband who she met on the Internet before Internet dating was a thing , the reader feels a connection to this outsider who like Alice has just wandered into the strangest of tea parties and is doing his best to figure out the rules. Her glimpses at his unwavering support of her work as a writer and his devotion to their marriage mirrors the mutual dependence and tenderness of other literary couples such as Leonard and Virginia Woolf.
One sometimes gets the feeling that it is really only by looking at her family through the lens of her husband that Lockwood truly gains any clarity.
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Before their return to the rectory, perhaps she knew something was off, but having a sympathizer at her side to share in the joke made it all more terrible and somehow beautiful and rich. The depression and suicide attempt that she writes about are as if she is revealing one photograph of herself after another, each one with a slightly more nuanced and painful view.
Fading in and out of the narrative, Lockwood tries to understand herself against what she sees as one of her chief flaws. Her imperfect voice is all the more unbearable because of her deep desire to lose herself within the power of a Christmas hymn. Had she perceived herself to be a better singer, perhaps she never would have become the writer that she is. Had she not been raised in rectories, perhaps she never would have experienced the exaltation of a midnight carol.
Her struggle is of someone who can no longer believe like she was taught, but still feels elements of spirituality deeply despite her lack of belief. It is at this point one realizes Lockwood has not simply written a personal memoir. She has attempted to capture and examine "the tightest, most self-involved knot" that is our national identity.
Amid the guitar riffs and the ceremonial chalices and deer hunting, there are late night visits of comfort and trips to Key West and unexplainable near blindness. And somehow, there is absurdity and love and laughter. I only wish there had been more submarines. Jun 30, Kristin rated it it was ok. I kind of suffered through this book. It was too At times, I felt like I was watching a stand up comic stumble through a bit and it made me want to turn away.
Other times, it was genuinely funny and charming. I think it was just too much of one person for me. Mar 04, Peter Boyle rated it it was amazing Shelves: memoir.
Priestdaddy: A Memoir
I identified with quite a lot of this dazzling memoir, much more than I had expected. Sure it addresses universal themes like family and identity, but it is Patricia Lockwood's memories of her Catholic upbringing that really struck a chord with me. Like her, the major milestones of my formative years often revolved around the Church, First Communion and Confirmation being the big ones.
I rose blearily on Sunday mornings to carry out altar boy duties at First Mass, and because I could kind of pla I identified with quite a lot of this dazzling memoir, much more than I had expected. I rose blearily on Sunday mornings to carry out altar boy duties at First Mass, and because I could kind of play the tin whistle, I was frequently plucked from class to perform sad songs at funerals. It was refreshing to read about the life of someone who had gone through a similar experience, though as I soon learned, hers was a whole other level of religious exposure.
The book revolves around a period when Lockwood and her husband Jason moved in with her parents, while he recovered from major eye surgery. It was a chaotic arrangement to say the least and she delights in recounting the craziness that ensued. Her father is not what you would call a typical priest. He spends most days dressed solely in boxer shorts, watching violent action movies or cranking out guitar solos from his music room. Meanwhile her mother yells out things she has learned from the internet, about alligators that eat dogs and how "rats in big cities are getting aggressive from eating too many cigarette butts.
Lockwood herself is absolutely hilarious and her family are equally funny - intentionally or unintentionally, it is hard to say. Her mother is a worrier, a "human Lassie" who is always alert to disaster: "The only magazine she ever subscribed to was called Prevention and it exclusively carried articles about which fruits could prevent cancer.
The cover always featured a picture of a jogging young grandma in a sports bra pumping her fist in the air as she overcame any number of invisible diseases. He's not an easy person to love and a difficult character to pin down. He is boorish, outspoken and even childish - Homer Simpson often came to mind.
Lockwood remembers a time when he declined her request to go to college, saying that the money just wasn't there. A few days later he took delivery of another expensive guitar for his collection, one that had originally been made for Paul McCartney. Of course there is unconditional love between them, but he remains somewhat of an enigma that even she can't explain. Lockwood's sparkling sense of humour is one thing, but wow, she can write. Her years as a poet have undoubtedly honed her abilities - she has a talent for conjuring the most striking imagery and constructing sumptuous, lyrical sentences.
She captures the nervous excitement upon meeting Jason in real life for the first time: "When we kissed, perhaps because we had so many teeth, it was exactly like two birdcages touching together. The plunge down, like all plunges down, was a short segment of infinity. Your heart flew up out of the top of your head and the red silk of it caught and billowed out and you hung from it for a second in the middle of the sky. I wanted to spend a little longer in the company of Patricia Lockwood's wacky family and bask in the warm glow of her sensuous prose.
I think fans of David Sedaris would particularly enjoy this magical memoir, but I would recommend it to just about anybody. A wondrous, intoxicating read. View all 15 comments. Sep 08, Maxwell rated it really liked it Shelves: i-own-it , botm , , non-fiction. Funny, melancholy, moving. This was a treat from start to finish. Mar 01, Kathleen rated it really liked it. Last summer, the Pew Research Center released a study showing that for the first time, more to year-olds live at home with their parents than in any other arrangement. So Patricia Lockwood's decision to move with her husband, in the face of medical and financial hardship, back in with her parents in Kansas City "after twelve long years away" is hardly exceptional unto itself.
No, what makes it exceptional is that they are throwing themselves "on the mercy of the church," which Lockwood explains in her delightful and debauched prose debut, the memoir "Priestdaddy," "exists for me on this earth in unusually patriarchal form. As Lockwood explains, if a married minister of another faith "converts to Catholicism, he can apply to Rome for a dispensation," which, if granted, means, "He is allowed, yes, to keep his wife. He is even allowed to keep his children, no matter how bad they might be.
Author of the acclaimed poetry collection "Motherland Fatherland Homelandsexuals," Lockwood has been hailed by The New Yorker as "the poet laureate of Twitter," where she has more than 64, followers.
The New York Times has dubbed her the "smutty-metaphor queen," and she is deservingly renowned for her boundary-pushing wit and smutty apercus. Here, using the same offbeat intelligence, comic timing, gimlet skill for observation and verbal dexterity that she uses in both her poetry and her tweets, she delivers an unsparing yet ultimately affectionate portrait of faith and family. And her metaphors really are deserving of royalty status, as when she tries to capture her beloved sister, Mary, saying, "I have, on different occasions … described her as 'a tricked-out club Chewbacca,' a 'highly literate female Tarzan,' and 'a jaguar who went through a human puberty.
Yet even as "Priestdaddy" is a book of leisure, capable of entertaining the heck out of you and letting you escape from your own life, so too is it a book that has something to teach you — with real pathos. Some comedians get nervous if too many minutes go by without a laugh, cracking jokes neurotically whether the gags are necessary or not. Lockwood's jokes, though, seem neither defensive nor compulsive. Rather, they deliver something essential to the voice, character and content of her story. Moreover, she can get deadly serious when the subject merits gravity, as when she writes about the child sex abuse scandals that began to rock the Catholic church in the early s.
After a raucous recounting of a celebratory dinner that she and her family attended that was presided over by Kansas City Bishop Robert Finn, who would later be forced to resign by Pope Francis for his role in shielding pedophile priests, she writes: "All my life I have overheard, all my life I have listened to what people will let slip when they think you are part of their we. Jan 10, Alex rated it really liked it Shelves: best-of , I'm kicking off by reading some of the best of Here are the maybes; here's Digg's aggregate top ten list.
Lockwood comes off as some unholy bastard child of bloggers and poets; she carries the Wonder Woman bracelets of sarcasm and the invisible jet of metaphor. She describes her cat's inexplicable love for her father's horrendous gu I'm kicking off by reading some of the best of She describes her cat's inexplicable love for her father's horrendous guitar playing: Alice answers him, writhing on the hood of his Corvette, purring in every cell of her, her whiskers vibrating as if they were recently strummed. Her body is a leotard, her fur is a perm.
Of some habitually pregnant women she writes, "They were happy the way crabgrass is happy, doing what they were designed to do. So obviously this is the kind of book about which people crow, "I kept cracking up in bed and disturbing my wife," which they think is a cute thing to say but let me tell you, your wife doesn't think it's cute. She already knows what book you're reading. No, she does not want you to read that passage out loud.
Lockwood is better known as a poet. And she is surprisingly well-known, for a poet - so well known that even I've heard of her, and I think poetry is essentially stupid. It's a devastating poem, entirely fresh and furious, and it made her career. And two things had to happen there, right? The second thing was writing a poem about the first thing. The first thing - "This was the price? Broke, she and her husband have moved back in with her parents in Missouri: her doomful mother, from whom she got her sense of humor, and the priestdaddy of the title, a towering figure dressed in terrifyingly loose boxer shorts, carrying a guitar in one hand and a bible in the other.
Meanwhile, "Rape Joke" is published. She writes this book, almost a la minute, sitting at the table and writing down what her family says, which, as you can imagine, makes everyone feel self-conscious. There's nothing that requires being called a plot, so by the second half I found my attention wandering a little; I'd gotten accustomed to her voice, as unique and hilarious as it is, and nothing new was happening. She's mostly interested in writing about writing. Lockwood's family couldn't afford to send her to college; she began her career with no connections, no mentors.
It gave her a complex that she still seems a little raw about. She hasn't been seen as a Wonder-Woman-bracelet kind of person; she's small and from Missouri and easily overlooked. But "On the page I am strong," she says, "Because that is where I put my strength I am no longer whispering through the small skirted shape of a keyhole: the door is knocked down and the roof is blown off and I am aimed once more at the entire wide night.
I hope they find her! Look for, I guess, the tiny psychic covered with tits. Sep 16, Hank Stuever rated it did not like it. I really liked Patricia Lockwood's second book of poetry "Motherland Fatherland Homelandsexuals , but this memoir was a big disappointment -- sloppily and perhaps hastily written a s computer monitor is described as "capacious" on page 18; five pages later, a living room in a rectory is also "capacious".
The book is disorganized and immature in an off-putting way that made me wonder if the author is 15 or You say your dad's a Catholic priest? Do tell. My mother became a Catholic nun I really liked Patricia Lockwood's second book of poetry "Motherland Fatherland Homelandsexuals , but this memoir was a big disappointment -- sloppily and perhaps hastily written a s computer monitor is described as "capacious" on page 18; five pages later, a living room in a rectory is also "capacious". My mother became a Catholic nun late in life, years after her divorce from my father, so I'm all ears.
Turns out Lockwood isn't going to tell, not for more than pages. I learned more about her father's priesthood, his conversion to Catholicism, and his religious views from Googling him than I did from reading this book. Okay, so it's not about him, it's about her -- and whatever boring stories about herself she thinks she can spin into funny yarns as in "please-welcome-to-The-Moth-stage" funny yarns about her family and growing up.
I was hoping for a whole lot more here about Father Lockwood's and his wife's brand of Catholicism -- because it sounds like they're pretty right of center -- and a lot less of Patricia's lapsed disregard for it all. Hey, I get it, I'm lapsed too. Overall, I just got the sense that she had no clue what sort of book she wanted to write, except that she sold the book proposal on the "my dad's a priest" hook and then just decided to let it meander from there.
Mar 22, Richard Noggle rated it really liked it. Lockwood's examination of her family is exceptionally funny no surprise but its final third works toward a really nuanced and powerful look at the power of writing and the effects of her religious upbringing and the way these two things are surprisingly intertwined. A good book, Lockwood writes at one point, leaves you with the "conviction" that "life can be holdable in the hand, examined down to the dog hairs, eaten with the eyes and understood.
Jul 13, Charles Finch rated it liked it. Abandoned; I love her poetry, but this had no narrative momentum. Wouldn't grade if I hadn't made it fairly far in. Warning: this book will blow your mind. It did mine, anyway. Yet it reads as utterly natural, even effortless. For one thing, her father converted to Catholicism after he was already married, and a special dispensation was required for him to become a priest. Not only is he a married Father of five children , but he wanders around in his underpants, watches violent movies and make horrific noises with guitars.
The immediate inspiration for this book was moving back in with her parents in Missouri as a married woman, sharing the rectory with them and a very serious seminarian while her poetry career suddenly and finally took off to the extent that a poetry career actually can , but the narrative ranges widely around her past and present. But to me, it is not blasphemy, it is my idiom.
Many will pick the book up for laughs it won the Thurber Prize for American Humor, after all , and it certainly is uproariously funny, but it also tugs at the heartstrings. He considers them to be little mean hillary clintons covered all over with feminist legfur.
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Cats would have abortions, if given half a chance. Karen is indefatigable and largehearted, a caretaker who cooks for family, seminarians, parishioners and workers alike, and frets over their collective health. She writes well about difficult things: abortion, the too-short life of a maintenance man named Darrell, molestation in the church. She is plucky, for her resilience and for the sounds she can make out of words. What I loved about this book was the way it feels suffused with love — of literature, nature and the English language; for her family, those loved ones whom this book is for.
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